Category: Let's talk
I wasn't sure where to put this, so I apologize if it's in the wrong place. I wanted to share this with others who might be in the same situation, and feel like they don't have a voice. I'm hopeful this helps someone in some way
mom,
I’ve debated for the longest time whether or not to write you a letter, and have finally decided to do so. first off, I guess I’ll address the move: I left because I could no longer take the verbal abuse. telling me things like, “the school for the blind won’t call you back as a sub because you ask for help”, isn’t something a parent should tell their kid. asking for help is something everyone should do; it’s not a sign of weakness or helplessness. also, gossiping with the family about how I got screwed over by a cab driver isn’t cool, either. it’s something that can and does happen to everyone, no matter if they’re blind, sighted, or whatever else the case may be.
as I’m sure everyone well knows, I’m not the first one to leave the family, and I certainly won’t be the last. if you all can’t see the pattern here, that’s your loss. I understand every parent does what they feel is best for their child, but I feel hindering me as you have all my life was the worst possible thing you could do. I don’t understand how Monica says the louisiana center for the blind was a joke, especially when she saw it for herself! it was also brought to my attention that she said I don’t have the life skills I claim to, and should “be in a home with other disabled people because we can all compensate for one another”. to know that my own family would even say such a thing is beyond my comprehension. it’s still extremely hurtful when I think about it, but I’ll deal with it when I’m ready!! that was one of the worst things that has ever been said about me by my supposed family; it’s right up there with when you told me, “I could blame you for everything that has gone wrong and continues to go wrong in my life, but I don’t”. if you call yourselves family, that’s fine...but I most certainly don’t!! it saddens me to know I’m represented in such a negative light, because I assure you, no one knows me!!! everyone thinks they know me down to a t, but every single one of you is dead wrong.
I’m perfectly capable of doing and being anything I want no matter what anyone says or thinks. it’s not just about being “the blind girl with a good attitude”, as you once told me; it’s also about having the will, drive, passion, and love for people that I do that’ll carry me far in life. I’ve dealt with crap from you for all these years, and as far as I’m concerned, it ends here and now. I absolutely refuse to deal with and be a part of the drama that is your side of the family, and that’s why I did what I had to do. I’m passed the point of wishing or even hoping things would be different; I know I’ll make something of myself and take the world by storm no matter what. I’m sorry you guys will miss out, but you made that bed and can lay in it. I’m in a much happier and loving family now, and I love it as well as them with all my heart.
wow, hope you're truely happy now.
my question is why should such a personal private matter be out there for us to read? In life there is too much talking about and not enough talking to people. This person needs to go to her parents and hash this out.
turricane, your point about too much talking ... is well taken, but why not read the first sentence again for an answer to your question.
Chelsea, I don't know you very well, I'm afraid, but I do know this was a heart-felt letter. I only hope you haven't burned your bridges irrevocably. Just remember, there are two sides to every story, and I'm sure your mom has a story to tell too. If she's willing to tell you her side of the story, please listen and maybe she'll listen to you as well.
Bob
I'm disowned, but I had to get everything out in the open. turricane, I posted it in hopes that it might help others.